We hear that all the time don't we? Nobody's perfect? It's how we excuse ourselves for mistakes. Convince ourselves that it's okay to be flawed.
I've said it many times about myself in the past. In fact one of my favourite lines when I was working out of the house was "I don't remember putting "perfect" down on my resume", when something didn't work out as planned or I had fallen short of a goal. It was an excuse. Plain and simple.
My belief now is not that we aren't perfect, but that we absolutely are.
Some would think the things I've done in my life are all mistakes. All of my decisions the wrong ones.
I suppose it's easy to guess that since most of what I have done and most of the decisions I have made were made because they were the right ones for me and not for someone else.
I don't make excuses for my decisions and mistakes anymore. I know that all of it is perfect. It sometimes doesn't look that way on the surface, and it is sometimes confusing for the people around me to experience, but they are perfect.
I had a friend tell me once that she is an "experiential learner". I believe we are all experiential learners. This earth is our classroom and we are earning (as another dear friends likes to call it) a Ph.D. in life.
We all have a story. And isn't that the point?
I believe heartache, tragedy and life experiences are what bring us as human beings together. To be able to hear someone tell a story that touches your heart because you remember being in that position at one point, you remember the emotion, the physical feelings of it, you remember it like it was yesterday and so therefore, you can relate and you can send love and support to the other person experiencing the same thing.
The moments when this happens for me confirms my belief in perfection. Nothing is left for chance in this world. Every event, everything that has happened and will happen in my life will be perfectly planned to give me the opportunity to learn and to become a better human being.
It's there for all of us. If we just take the time to see it.
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Thursday, December 23, 2010
Friday, November 20, 2009
Expansion
Have you ever felt like you no longer belong where you are?
Ever felt like you no longer belonged in your family, your circle of friends, your hometown, your job, your intimate relationship?
This is me right now. This is where I am at in my life experience. I no longer "fit" in. It really is hard to put into words the feeling of no longer belonging in a place where you always believed you would spend forever.
Over the past year connections have been lost with loved ones, friends, acquaintances. The time we were sharing together was done and it was time to move on. I continue to love all of these people on the truest of levels, we just don't belong together anymore.
I feel as though I have outgrown my home and my community. To be honest I feel like I've outgrown my own skin some days. Like I have grown into something more, something bigger. Like my big dreams no longer fit in the little body of the person I was and so I have expanded.
Expansion can be difficult though. It can bring about what may feel like mind, body, spirit imbalance. Loss of focus, lack of energy, sadness, intolerance, headaches, backaches, loss of clarity, fear, sense of loss of purpose. But it's not imbalance at all, it is merely your spiritual and physical self re-aligning to the new space you will soon occupy.
I kind of see it as trying to put on jeans that you just took out of the dryer. It's a process; first you lie down, then you shimmy and slide yourself this way and that trying to wriggle those too tight jeans up past your thighs, every once in a while stopping to take in some air, the triumph comes though when you finally get them up to your waist, find yourself a pair of pliers and do those suckers up! Ahhhh, the relief. Uh-oh but now comes the chore of actually standing up and walking in those pants!
As much as this process is frustrating and exhausting, you still very much want to wear those pants!
The same is true for spiritual expansion or the outgrowing of your current surroundings. Sometimes the desperation for new space is so great you would do anything to make it happen.
Staying in a place where you no longer belong can do great harm. You may know someone who has denied themselves the privilege of moving on in their life experience and so they endure struggle after struggle, illness, dis-ease and sometimes death.
Denying yourself the change that is necessary to grow and evolve is a mistake that many of us make, because we don't want to disappoint someone by moving, leaving the relationship or changing jobs. We don't want to let anyone down, and so we have no problem letting ourselves down.
If your need for change is so great that it fills your entire being with joy and excitement, then you really have no other choice! You must do it! You must step up, take the reigns of your own life and ride off into the sunset without regret and without looking back.
Ever felt like you no longer belonged in your family, your circle of friends, your hometown, your job, your intimate relationship?
This is me right now. This is where I am at in my life experience. I no longer "fit" in. It really is hard to put into words the feeling of no longer belonging in a place where you always believed you would spend forever.
Over the past year connections have been lost with loved ones, friends, acquaintances. The time we were sharing together was done and it was time to move on. I continue to love all of these people on the truest of levels, we just don't belong together anymore.
I feel as though I have outgrown my home and my community. To be honest I feel like I've outgrown my own skin some days. Like I have grown into something more, something bigger. Like my big dreams no longer fit in the little body of the person I was and so I have expanded.
Expansion can be difficult though. It can bring about what may feel like mind, body, spirit imbalance. Loss of focus, lack of energy, sadness, intolerance, headaches, backaches, loss of clarity, fear, sense of loss of purpose. But it's not imbalance at all, it is merely your spiritual and physical self re-aligning to the new space you will soon occupy.
I kind of see it as trying to put on jeans that you just took out of the dryer. It's a process; first you lie down, then you shimmy and slide yourself this way and that trying to wriggle those too tight jeans up past your thighs, every once in a while stopping to take in some air, the triumph comes though when you finally get them up to your waist, find yourself a pair of pliers and do those suckers up! Ahhhh, the relief. Uh-oh but now comes the chore of actually standing up and walking in those pants!
As much as this process is frustrating and exhausting, you still very much want to wear those pants!
The same is true for spiritual expansion or the outgrowing of your current surroundings. Sometimes the desperation for new space is so great you would do anything to make it happen.
Staying in a place where you no longer belong can do great harm. You may know someone who has denied themselves the privilege of moving on in their life experience and so they endure struggle after struggle, illness, dis-ease and sometimes death.
Denying yourself the change that is necessary to grow and evolve is a mistake that many of us make, because we don't want to disappoint someone by moving, leaving the relationship or changing jobs. We don't want to let anyone down, and so we have no problem letting ourselves down.
If your need for change is so great that it fills your entire being with joy and excitement, then you really have no other choice! You must do it! You must step up, take the reigns of your own life and ride off into the sunset without regret and without looking back.
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