In my last blog I talked about being offered an amazing opportunity to take part in a retreat as a presenter.
It wasn't until I declined the offer and had a short discussion with my friends over dinner that I realized that I was feeling scared and intimidated by the thought of presenting in front of all of those fabulous people. And I was covering it up with all kinds of other excuses.
I want you to know what I did with this situation, so that you know it can be done and hopefully it will help you when you are stuck in fear.
First, I emailed a good friend of mine and admitted to her that I was feeling scared. She acknowledged what I was saying and added how exciting it would be if I could change my decision and move past my fears. She also shared how great it was that I was noticing my fears and admitting to them. (When you admit to your fears, they somehow magically diffuse to a point where you can see a little more clearly and gain forward movement).
I then made the decision to admit my fears to the coordinator of the retreat. I wanted to be completely honest with her about why I had originally decided to decline her very gracious offer and asked if it was possible if there was still a space available for me to participate as a presenter.
She replied with an amazing "You're in!!!"
And now....
Now I am planning my "workshop" for that weekend, I am fine tuning my bio and getting ready to send it over to her tonight.
The feeling of overcoming these fears is amazing. I have been living with them my entire life!
The fears of not being good enough, or of being judged are common amongst women.
It is however, imperative that we overcome these fears.
If for no other reason than to prove to yourself that you can!
It wasn't until I declined the offer and had a short discussion with my friends over dinner that I realized that I was feeling scared and intimidated by the thought of presenting in front of all of those fabulous people. And I was covering it up with all kinds of other excuses.
I want you to know what I did with this situation, so that you know it can be done and hopefully it will help you when you are stuck in fear.
First, I emailed a good friend of mine and admitted to her that I was feeling scared. She acknowledged what I was saying and added how exciting it would be if I could change my decision and move past my fears. She also shared how great it was that I was noticing my fears and admitting to them. (When you admit to your fears, they somehow magically diffuse to a point where you can see a little more clearly and gain forward movement).
I then made the decision to admit my fears to the coordinator of the retreat. I wanted to be completely honest with her about why I had originally decided to decline her very gracious offer and asked if it was possible if there was still a space available for me to participate as a presenter.
She replied with an amazing "You're in!!!"
And now....
Now I am planning my "workshop" for that weekend, I am fine tuning my bio and getting ready to send it over to her tonight.
The feeling of overcoming these fears is amazing. I have been living with them my entire life!
The fears of not being good enough, or of being judged are common amongst women.
It is however, imperative that we overcome these fears.
If for no other reason than to prove to yourself that you can!
WOW... this is very powerful. I am so excited you decided to go with it. You won't regret it. Remember: Everyone else thinks you do this for a living, therefore they are not aware of your fear. Judgment is only a reflect of how we judge ourselves.
ReplyDeleteI can not wait to see you in action :)
When is doubt think of everyone in their underwear LOL