Thursday, September 8, 2011

I WILL disappoint you. I PROMISE!

It's not like I do it on purpose.  It just comes naturally!

I think I might get a t-shirt made for this one!

Of course we've all disappointed someone at one time or another.   We are human afterall.  And this is a human experience we are having. 

You simply have not lived until you've experienced the phone call or email berating you for being so irresponsible and uncaring!

(disclaimer - the implication that one is irresponsible and uncaring when they have disappointed is an assumption on the part of the accuser and does not realistically reflect the integrity of the disappointee)

This topic is huge for some people right now.  Maybe it's all part of the collective 'AHA' that's happening right now. 

I've spoken to a few people who are experiencing being put on an invisible pedestal only to find that they are quickly booted off due to a moment of disappointment.

Ah, the game of life.  Seriously, where in the rule book does it say that our lives are to be lived only to please the unpleaseable?  On what page does it read that I will sacrifice my peace of mind and loving heart to stay friends with someone who clearly doesn't get the meaning of the word 'friendship'.

FYI for those of you who are just waking up.  Friendship is not a one way street where one person gets to make all the demands and the other person has to clean up all of your messes for you.  Friendship is a give and take, it's an unspoken contract of mutual respect and responsibility.

I will never forget one girl in Grade 8 (a gazillion years ago!) delivering her speech about friendship.  It turned into a red faced crying fiasco where the teacher had to escort her out of the room; but for me her words made a huge impact on my heart and have never left me.

People and relationships get hurt when foolishness enters the ring. 

It makes me wonder?  Is it the initial act that wreaks havoc on the relationship or is it the assumptions, blame and judgement that come afterward?

Personally, if someone thinks I disappointed them on purpose and out of malice, they never really knew me in the first place and will be handed a one way ticket out of my world.  To truly know someone is to know what they are capable of and where their heart is at.

For the disappointed, I have one question for you.  Who do you think you are?

I also want to give those who are currently feeling disappointed with anything or anyone in their lives a little tip.  You are not REALLY disappointed with that person or circumstance, you are REALLY disappointed in yourself!  Blaming someone else is avoiding the obvious need to look within yourself and correct the issue.  It's time to realize that we are not the center of the Universe, that life happens and we need to take responsibility for our lives and our emotional state.

Can I get an Amen?


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