Wednesday, August 8, 2012

Enough Already!

Lately I've been SUPER sensitive to the pain we inflict on others based on our past experiences with them.

I'm no saint.  I know that I've inflicted some major pain on people that I love for the sake of keeping the past alive and well in my mind.  And I'm working to better myself in that department.

Today, I believe there is a better way to live and to relate to the people we love and to those who are new to our life experience.

It fascinates me the powerful pull that the past has.  One little issue arises and BOOM! there we are standing in 1995 reliving a scene in our minds and finding cause to react in order to protect ourselves from experiencing that pain again.

Recently, during a conversation with a friend.  I heard all about the frustration she was feeling with regards to a family member.  She was spewing (and yes the word spewing is appropriate and not at all an exaggeration) all kinds of stuff about their relationship.  All of it was related to their past experiences.  None of it was relevant to what was happening in my friends life today.  She became visibly upset, her body language changed, her voice changed and she was on the verge of tears.

I know we can all relate to this story.  That's why I'm sharing it.

But there is a different way to look at this persons situation.  In fact, if we want to live in a different world then the one we are seeing today, we MUST look at things a different way.

What I know to be true is the past is no longer in existence.  And so nothing that was upsetting to this woman even exists, except in her own mind; in the vault marked 'past hurts'.

Now, what if we looked at the family member that she is so frustrated with.  Can we see that perspective for a moment?  Can we see that this family member loves and cherishes this woman and if she knew there was this much hurt being inflicted she would be empathic towards her?  Can we see that both of these people in this situation are loving beings who only want to be loved and whose only purpose on this planet is to love?

Can we see that?

I don't know about anyone else, but I am SO done with the pain.  I am done seeing people for who they once were and I am more than willing to open my heart and to see them as they are now.  It's not always easy, I am well versed in 'judge and jury'.  Though I do know that when one opens their heart and is willing to take a step forward in their evolution; miracles happen.

I'm ready for some miracles.  Are you?

2 comments:

  1. Hell yeah! Great words of wisdom Jenn :)

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  2. I knew you'd be with me Mandy! lol

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