I have been so stuck lately on what to write about. There are so many issues at play in all of our lives at this time that it's hard to pinpoint exactly what people would be interested in reading. But there is something tugging at my heart that I thought I'd work on today.
I am seeing so many people giving up on themselves and on life, blaming others for their circumstances and making excuses for the life they are living.
Is it appropriate to ask the Universe to fulfill our dreams and desires when we ourselves cannot bring our thoughts out of the dark long enough to see that it is our own doing that we do not have what we desire?
Is it appropriate to scream at the world because our business is not thriving when we sit on the couch, gossip on the phone all day and do nothing within our power to change the situation our business is in?
Is it appropriate to complain about our children's behaviour and make no steps to improve our relationship with our children so that we can better understand why they are exhibiting this behaviour?
My answer to these questions is NO! No, it is not appropriate... Complaining and blaming outside sources for your uncomfortable living is only a crutch and only serves to give you an escape route if things aren't going the way you want them to go.
You are better than that! You have more potential that you can ever imagine!
I know so many people who talk about change all day long, they talk about what they want, how they would prefer to live and then when they are asked "what is the first step to making that happen" they come up with a ton of excuses as to why they CAN'T do that?
The Universe does not accept excuses!
You have many choices in life, one of them being to either live a life of abundance and joy, or live a life of suffering and misery. If those two choices were handed to you on a platter which one would you choose? Logically you would pick abundance and joy because it feels better and looks better. But when the choices are not tangible, when they are not clearly set out in front of you, which do you choose? In this moment are you living abundantly and full of joy, or are you suffering and fully miserable?
I think most people are comfortable with misery, it doesn't offer up any surprises, every day is the same old thing, right? Living a joyful life brings with it opportunity and decisions because when you are joyful you attract opportunity, love and success. And most people are afraid of opportunity and are afraid of making decisions because they may make the wrong one or they be criticized for it.
Take a look around you. What kinds of people do you hang out with? Are they kind, giving, generous? Do they appreciate your presence in their life or do they use you and abuse you every chance they get?
How does your job feel to you? Does your stomach turn at every thought of work? Do you live for the weekends, hold off on having fun and being joyful until Friday at 5?
What about your family? Are you happy with the way your household feels? Are you happy in your marriage or partnership? Are your children happy to see you at the end of the day?
Are your finances what you would like them to be or are you living pay cheque to pay cheque?
How's your health? Are you sick all the time? Do you allow yourself time to eat right and work out?
The point is that if you are living an undesireable life, you need to sit down with a pen and paper and write out each thing you are not satisfied with. Then beside or underneath each item write down something that you could do to change that circumstance, then do that thing that can make a difference! No matter what give yourself the opportunity to move forward.
I also recommend that if you are needing help with this that you find yourself a mentor or a life coach to help you along.
I'd like to say that changing your life is easy. It's really not. It's difficult only because you will have to disappoint some people in your life, make decisions that are temporarily uncomfortable (keyword: temporarily) in order for you to live in alignment with your hierarchy of values.
I believe it was Charlie "Tremendous" Jones that said "In 5 years you will be the same person you are today except for the people you associate with and the books that you read." He was absolutely right about that! And I can tell you that just changing those 2 things will bring you to a place in this world you never thought was possible!
When you begin to live within your hierarchy of values, when you begin to do things in life because it feels good to you to do them, then and only then will you begin to experience life in the way it was meant to be experienced.
I can tell you from personal experience that this year has been my most devastating and yet at the same time my most inspiring! I'm telling you it is absolutely without a doubt possible for you to climb out of your self made hole, dust yourself off and walk into a better life.
I know that you can!